Attraction v. arousal
Women are attracted by attributes which can paradoxically turn them off sexually. Neither are necessarily related to virtue—or necessarily not…but a Christian man must learn to balance them in a virtuous way.
A brief theology of kink #3: what is sexual intimacy for?
Before we can ask about the permissibility of any given sex act, we need to know what criteria to judge it against. I identify three main ones, representing goals for sexual intimacy within marriage: (1) release; (2) enjoyment; (3) onetogetherness.
A brief theology of kink #2: the natural order of things
To discern the permissibility of a particular sex act, we need to first know what the features of sexuality are; what they tell us about God’s intentions for his creation; and whether that act defies those intentions. This is not as straightforward as you might think.
A brief theology of kink #1: what does the Bible command?
The Bible gives very few commands about what sex acts are permissible for married couples. Its concern seems to be not for regulating the nature of sexual intimacy, but rather for ensuring that it occurs with the right person. What couples may do is thus left for them to discern.
This is what we’re up against
A real-life demonstration of how the wolves have formed a protective circle around the pulpit to prevent the sheep getting near, while they tear all the offensive pages out of the Bible.